A man's personal life and his social environment can have a big impact on his level of sexual desire and a lack of desire in men as well. As in the case of a lack of desire in women, anything that negatively effects a man's emotional well-being will affect his sex life as well. Even little things, like being bored with your sexual partner or not getting along with them, frequent arguments, feeling stressed-out or feeling uncomfortable with how your body looks can lead to a lack of desire in men and lead to a reduced desire for intercourse.
If there are significant psychological problems, such as a past traumatic sexual experience or underlying clinical depression, this can lead to a lack of desire in men and squelch the fires of one's libido. If you think you may be suffering from depression, seek help from your physician immediately.
Good old fashioned fatigue can also play a key role in a lack of desire in men. Fatigue can be caused in a number of ways - illness, physical exertion, stress, lack of a healthy diet, even long-standing sleep deprivation. Getting a good night's sleep is very critical in maintaining a healthy libido and addressing the issue of a lack of desire in men.
And I have to be the bad guy here and say that a man's age does play a role in a lack of desire in men. As we age, we men begin to see a drop in our levels of the key hormone androgens in our bodies, which then affect our sex drive and energy levels. There is also a the fact that many times as we age there is a corresponding drop in our testosterone levels as well. Getting older leads to a lot of other changes as well, a lack of desire in men being just one of them. Changes in our physical appearance as we age can decrease a man's confidence in his perceived ability to arouse a partner. And our partner ages too. For many men, changes in the physical appearance of our partner may make us feel less sexually attracted to her and lead to a lack of desire in men.
Older men also suffer more often from impotence, which can make the idea of sex less attractive, even uncomfortable. It is also very common for men who suffer from impotence to experience a lack of desire in men for sex and a decreased sex drive.
There are many prescription and over-the-counter medications that can contribute to a lack of desire in men for sexual intercourse. Antidepressants are especially notorious for this. These include Celexa, Paxil, Prozac, Zoloft and Effexor, among others. And it’s not only men affected by these drugs as women experience a similar decrease in sexual desire when taking these medications. If you are taking these medications and have found you suffer from a decrease in sexual desire, see your doctor, or you may want to look into some herbal alternatives that can heighten sexual functioning without side effects.
How Can I Address Lack of Desire in Men for Sex?
Psychotherapy - Now men, I know many of you shrink in horror at the idea of sitting down and talking about your feelings, but there can be many underlying emotional reasons why you may be experiencing a lack of desire for sex. Therapy can help determine if you may be suffering from something like depression, or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, both of which can impact your sex life. Therapy can also help address and heal old relationship problems and help you learn to communicate better with your partner.
Exercise - participating in regular aerobic exercise can help address issues of a lack of desire in men. Exercise will release endorphins into the body and give your libido a booster shot.
Sleep- stress, hectic work schedules, juggling home life and children with long working hours - these can all play havoc on our ability to feel relaxed enough to get a good night sleep. Getting yourself into a good sleep pattern to allow you to get deep, restful sleep will go as far as any other method to address issues of a lack of desire in men for sex.
Herbal Supplements - There are a variety of herbs that can work synergistically with your body to address issues of a lack of desire in men. Ginseng, Damiana, Yohimbe bark, and other such herbs have been shown to boost libido, sexual stamina, and increase sexual desire in men.
The best thing about herbal supplements is they have no dangerous side effects like the synthetic medications used to address men’s sexual issues. For example, studies have suggested that low levels of dopamine may be responsible for sexual issues in men and in women alike. Dopamine enhancing drugs can be prescribed that may be effective but at the cost of some rather serious side effects - difficulty breathing, tightness in the chest, swelling of the mouth or tongue, chest pain, irregular heartbeat, swelling at the injection site, severe headaches and even color blindness. And these are only a few of the severe side effects that can occur with Dopamine enhancing drugs.
Viagra of course is very well known, along with the other similar class of drugs such as Cialis. These drugs work to increase blood flow to sexual organs, thereby helping men to maintain an erection. But again there are some associated risks with these medicines, including:
Heart attack
Stroke
Irregular heart beat
Death (nothing can quite match “death” as a side effect!)
Personally I don’t believe it’s worth the risk when there are many natural alternatives that can help address lack of desire in men. I can personally attest to several herbal remedies that have helped me in my time of sexual need. So it’s worth a look and worth a try. Living with a sexual dysfunction can be a very difficult and humbling experience. Besides, what have you got to lose?